With my parents in for Thanksgiving, and the Christmas holiday approaching, I took some time off from the blog. With Christmas so close, I may be taking a few more weeks to get through that holiday. With three boys, I don't have a lot of 'blog' time. Something that was on my mind this week was socialization, yes, again. I read another article about a Florida mother who was forced to place her children in the public school system in the middle of a custody battle. Scary thing is, that the soon to be ex-husband wasn't fighting the homeschool arrangement. When the social worker and the judge found out she was homeschooling, the judge reprimanded her about 'socialization' and ordered the children back into public school. Yes, HSLDA did intervene. So once again, lets talk about the socialization. But before I make a few points, I would like to say (again) I am NOT against public schooling. I feel that everyone needs to decide and have the right to choose what kind of education their children receive. According to Webster's dictionary, the word SOCIALIZE means:
I don't think that this definition describes what public school brings every child. In fact, for some (or even most) quite the opposite!
So the question should be what KIND of socialization do you want for your children? Do you want healthy, positive socializing? Do you want negative, bullying, derogatory? Well of course no one wants the second choice, but I have heard some (even Christian) parents say pretty much the same thing by telling me that they want to get their children ready for the 'real world'. Really? Well, high school (or any public school) is NOTHING like the real world! So for me, I ask myself 'Can my boys have a nice conversation with adults and other children without my prompting or forcing'? My answer is 'yes', so I think my job of 'socializing' (aka the "S" word) my children has been accomplished. I can send my teen into the store to buy something. I can tell my 10 year old to please hand out Christmas cards in a nursing home, I can ask my boys to ask an adult for assistance.......this is socializing. This is the 'real world'.......NOT a public school.